“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.”
Mindfulness has been found to decrease racial bias and judgement.
Mindfulness has been found to decrease racial bias and judgement.
Cameron Gibson, part of the BCG counselling team, speaks on Youth & Mindfulness at the Hope Centre’s Mental Health Breakfast on Jan 12th. In his presentation, Cameron Gibson will explain the neuroscience behind mindfulness, and the effects of stress and the stress responses. He will review relevant and recent research showing the health benefits of mindfulness in everyday life for children, youth, and adults. Furthermore, Cameron will present research showing the effectiveness of mindfulness in treating mental health diagnoses like anxiety depression, ADHD and eating disorders.
Cameron will illustrate the process of using mindfulness and invite the audience to participate with techniques using breathe, the body scan, and bringing attention to thoughts, sensations and feelings. He will discuss different types of mindfulness applications to be used in daily life, and approaches for those struggling with anxiety. Cameron will conclude with research highlighting the prevalence of anxiety in children, and functional tools for parents helping their children more effectively cope with anxiety.
Cameron Gibson is a mental health counsellor here on the North Shore with the Bach Counselling Group. He treats youth and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, developmental disabilities, and ADHD. Cameron’s family immigrated to Canada from Scotland at the age of six, settling in Campbell River on Vancouver Island. After his work on fish farms outside of Gold River in his early twenties, Cameron decided to combine his passion for skateboarding with his interest in mentoring youth. He taught skateboarding to at risk and developmentally disabled youth. For eight years Cameron has worked with non-profit organizations, applied behavioral analysis youth residence and the Vancouver School Board. More recently he joined the Bach Counselling Group and the Broadway Youth Resource Centre while finishing his graduate work in Counselling Psychology. Cameron practices Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and brings his training in this evidence-based method to youth and young adults with great success. With this training MBSR has become integral to his work with clients.
For Questions and/or an appointment, book on our website or Cameron can be reached at:
Location: The Hope Centre, 1337 St. Andrews Ave, NV
Date: Jan 12th at 8am
Most emotional eaters dread the holiday season with its treats, food focused social events and hyper buffets. That’s because food is the socially acceptable addiction, compulsion and even obsession. For emotional eaters, this can make the holidays a time of self-loathing, complexity and strain. We hope these few tips can help you more successfully negotiate this seasonal food-fest:
Danger zones are those times, people and places that are most challenging for you; when you find yourself walking away feeling out of control and beating yourself up having eaten too much for your own comfort. So, when you know one of these dangers – places, people or times – is approaching, PLAN how you will get through with minimal harm to yourself. Yes, I mean food harm. Those might be times when your behavior with food has you riddled with guilt and even wishing to hide from your loved ones. If the buffet or a larger meal event is your danger place, ask yourself, “What can I do to manage at this meal-focused event?” Make a plan ahead of time.
Make a list of items that take from 2-minutes to a full day. These items are things you do for yourself where you are a priority, where you feel loved and cared for by that most important person, you. This will increase your attention to balance at a time of year which is all about giving and taking care of others. Emotional eaters are typically caregivers and their weak spot is self-care. Remember when you are cared for, you have more to bring to your loved ones.
Emotional eating is closely linked to anxiety. So, slow down…..and breathe. Take notice of how you are feeling in your body. Notice that you are okay for that moment when all you need is to breath.
Emotional eaters are so overly focused on others, they often forget to notice and take care of their own boundaries. Ask yourself, “Where is my limit?” Perhaps you can only stay at that family event for 1.5 hours rather than 5. Take care of yourself. Emotional eating is the body’s way of getting your attention and telling you that something is wrong. You have limits, so slow down and listen to them. And make your plans with full consideration of those limits. Assertiveness is simply declaring your boundaries. Following through with these limits is simply asserting your needs with yourself and with others. You have a right to this so take that small risk with those who care for you and be more assertive today, and throughout the holidays.
Take risks with family and friends even when they are not used to you setting limits. Emotional eating is one way for us to hide from the risks of interpersonal intimacy. Take the risk to let them know you’re experimenting with some limits or boundaries and that you appreciate their willingness to support you.
If you have a danger food that you know weakens your resolve, plan around it. Be honest with yourself about your vulnerability with certain foods. It’s OK. Plan accordingly and don’t have this food in your house over the holidays. Ask your family for support with this. Their understanding will surprise you
This may sound crazy but we know emotional eaters chronically restrict in attempt to counter their emotional eating behavior. Restricting radically increases emotional eating behavior. Eat every 2.5-3 hours, even if it’s simply a small handful of nuts.
Taste, smell, see and notice the texture and sensation of each bite. Enjoy your food while you are in relationship with it. Be present. Rather than food being a substance you use to distract and harm yourself, let it be an experience you appreciate. Your task is to find a more peaceful and harmonious relationship with food and yourself. This is possible!
Taking care of yourself makes you a better partner, mother, father, friend, daughter, son, brother, sister, cousin….
Even though the holidays is hyper focus on food, this season is really about connecting with our loved ones and making time to celebrate our relationships by sharing quality time together.
Enjoy this holiday season celebrating moments with Peace and Love.
Attention-Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is one of the most common mental health conditions in children according to Statistics Canada. It is characterized by inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity, although these symptoms vary. ADHD usually arises in the preschool years but is typically identified in the elementary school grades. Drop out rates for these kids are higher. Proper assessment of ADHD and dealing with the disorder are critical because approximately 75% of children will continue to have the diagnosis through adolescence and over half continue into adulthood. So how do we as parents deal with our kids who display these symptoms? Parenting is challenging enough. But parenting a child with ADHD takes even more patience, strategy, energy and support.
Here are a few tips you’ll find helpful:
1. STAY CALM
We cannot emphasize enough the importance of staying calm as one of the best supports you can give your child. ADHD is a neurological difference, therefore reacting to your child as if they are doing these things on purpose is destructive. Dan Siegel, a pioneering UCLA psychiatrist, emphasizes the importance of attachment relationships for brain development. He explains how the child’s brain responds to the stress of an upset parent’s response:
Children with ADHD tend to lash out more when they are frustrated. When a parent is outwardly upset, the child’s sympathetic nervous system engages, leaving them to either further escalate or retract. This is the natural fight or flight response. So, the result will likely be negative for both of you if you don’t stay calm; more arguing and/or raised voices. It’s likely you’ll find yourself in a bigger mess than when you began. So pay attention to yourself, especially if you are quick to escalate and react. Teach children ways to express their frustration constructively by your example.
Your role in helping your child calm down is essential in supporting them to think more clearly. Staying calm is critical in helping them to develop neuropathways (“wiring their brains”) to develop effective critical thinking skills. If you or your child are too excited to engage in logical reasoning, then it’s up to you, the adult, to take a ‘time-in’ (some moment to calm), before revisiting the issue. By doing so, you can support your child’s development of more effective reasoning skills.
Active listening will also help your child calm down. You need to be calm to offer authentic active listening. You are your child’s primary attachment figure, and when they feel heard by you it helps them calm down. This isn’t always easy, but it is very important and it works.
Your child needs to know that they can trust you to help them. They need you to be consistent so that they can live their lives with some measure of predictability about what will happen and how you will react.
2. SET LIMITS TO YOUR OVER FUNCTIONING BEHAVIOURS
Again, monitoring your own behaviour is key to providing positive support for your child. If you’re inclined to be worried and in turn over function, remind yourself that the more you do for your child, the less they learn to do for themselves. This will ultimately frustrate them. Remember your role is to support their healthy functioning.
However, children with ADHD are slower to develop in the area of executive functioning, namely time management and organization. They will need you to provide greater structure and follow through to help them succeed. For example, during a homework session, it’s fine to ask “Do you need more lined paper?” But taking your child’s pencil and saying you’ll both work on theit math can be problematic and disempowering for your child. It’s fine to help, but doing the work for them can undermine confidence.
If you’d still like to keep an eye on your child during homework, sit close by to help them focus but bring your own work to the table. This will help them learn about independent self-regulation.
3. SET STRUCTURE FOR DAILY FUNCTIONING
Structure helps reduce disorganization, distractibility and anxiety. Use strategies and tools for organization and time management, such as charts, lists, agendas, post-its, calendars, timers, reminders and alarms. Set a consistent time to do homework, with certain privileges available when the work is complete. Reward charts for young children and calendars and planners for older ones, with clear rules and routines, effectively provide external supports for internally challenged children.
It’s best to avoid imposing pressure as much as possible. It can be stress inducing. But what does pressure-free structure look like?
Avoid using threats or unreasonable deadlines or punishments that contribute to hostility, fear or drama. Start with smaller achievable tasks. Then review and celebrate those small successes. This will build confidence and assist your child in seeing where they are winning with school, and with you!
4. YOU CAN HELP YOUR CHILD MAKE WISE CHOICES THEY FEEL GOOD ABOUT
ADHD can be anxiety provoking. Predictability and a sense of control is an effective remedy. So, when dealing with an issue or decision that your child must make, provide them with just 2-3 positive options from which to choose. Again this lessens the stress, but supports the development of their critical thinking. Creating some structure for them to make decisions is less anxiety provoking and more likely to result in their success and confidence. With this, you’re helping your child learn to focus on what they can control.
More tips to come!
Start Date: May 15th, 2016
Location: Our primary location at 15th and Lonsdale in North Vancouver
Hi Friends and Parents,
I’m excited to let you know we are starting our first Mindfulness for Youth Program. We are looking for youth 13-15 years who are interested in learning more about how their brain works and how to work with their brains!
The more we learn about the practice of mindfulness and the brain, the more we see that mindfulness is one of the keys to improving our ability to:
With the incredible pressures and stressors on youth today, coupled with rising rates of anxiety in youth, we specifically designed this program to assist youth in changing the way they manage stress. Our Mindfulness for Youth Program brings knowledge and understanding through instruction and practice in a small group setting where youth will:
Our first 4-week Pilot Mindfulness for Youth starts May 15th, 4-6pm at our primary location at 15th and Lonsdale in North Vancouver. Being a pilot program, we are offering the discounted rate: $235
This is a small group setting with very limited spots available. Please contact me with any questions and/or to register.
You have decided to make the difficult step to separate. You’ve decided to be mindful and collaborative in your separation. Now, how do you tell your children? Here are some sound guidelines to follow when speaking with your children about your separation.
Remember, working cooperatively with your spouse is the best for your kids. A collaborative separation and divorce will cost the family less emotionally and financially, and will keep your children’s wellness as something you and your spouse maintain as your central focus throughout this challenging time of transition.